If you are ready to settle down and nest, there are a few types of partners to be avoided. This post is inspired by Jarrod Wilson’s blog post: http://jarridwilson.com/10-men-and-women-you-should-never-marry/
As I love birds, I have decided to use birds as my frame of reference.
Birds to Avoid:
The peacock is more concerned with being noticed in public, and usually gets all the attention. Its partner is usually plain and ignored. There is nothing wrong with being handsome or beautiful, as long as it isn’t only skin deep.
The Cuckoo & other Brood Parasites:
This bird lays its eggs in other birds’ nests. Havoc follows. Nuff said, I think.
This bird plays at being injured. It has the tendency for the dramatic, which can add extra unnecessary stress at already hard times. It is on the lookout for an easy escape.
This one is always on the look out for an easy meal. Leftovers are fine. They tend to hang out in groups. You always feel on edge around this type.
This bird runs away very quickly at the first sight of trouble. It has a violent temper when riled, and can physically appear very aggressive. Avoid at all costs.
This bird likes the night life, and likes to talk and socialize at night. They defend their turf, and like to maintain their lifestyle at all costs. This one can be a financial risk as well as emotionally harmful.
Birds to Attract:
The swan is faithful, and devoted to its partner and children, working alongside its partner all its days.
Robins are family oriented. Early risers, they are vocal and hearty. They are willing to travel, but remain close to family and friends.
The dove is sweet in temperament and pure. It is not tempted by evil, preferring to remain in flight than to settle for the best.
The eagle has vision. It knows its purpose and pursues it. It is tenacious and holds on during the storms of life. It lives life with vitality, and raises its young ones well.
The owl may be a nightbird, but it is a good provider and keeps close to home. It has exceptional hearing, and focus. They are protective of their family.
This bird knows what it is to do, and does it 100%. No holds barred. It doesn’t worry about what other birds think, focusing on gathering what it needs and providing for its family. It may move a little quickly, but it is in a controlled way.
This bird loves to build its mate a home, and bring it regular gifts to show its affection. It takes an active part in caring for their youth. Although sometimes they are parted in searching for work, they always look for one another’s voice to help bring them home.
This bird may look common, but it is one of the most faithful and loving of the birds. This one has a tendency to pair up when young, and live happily the rest of its days.
Obviously, using birds to express human characteristics is not the most accurate for such a serious topic as choosing a mate.
Take the time to make the list of what you want in your partner. What characteristics will attract or repel you? What are your non-negotiables? Once you know that, and know your strengths and weaknesses, you will be better prepared to look for your life partner.
Don’t settle into the wrong nest.
Better to say no than a lifetime of regret.
And remember, birds of a feather tend to flock together. Decide which flock you belong to, the one that reflects you and your standards, and keep your eyes open and your heart under guard until you settle down with your life partner.