its time to be still

I was anything but still today.
What I got done today leaves me tired just thinking about it.

And as usual, a few unexpected raised their heads and tried to unravel the day.

My first reaction was to get ticked off. (Honesty before eloquence!)

My second was to confirm a correct response (as sometimes these are needed) with someone who knows about the situation.

My third was to cry out to God.

And once again, in my busyness I bungled up the order of how to deal with the unexpected.

Go to God first.
Pause.
Breathe.
Let it all out.
Wait.
Listen.
Do only if He leads you to.
If you don’t get clarification, that means to wait some more.
Repeat if necessary.

These past several days I am feeling more tired than normal. I am not sensing anything serious, just a need for some more self care and time off.

After getting home from my 12 hour work day, I sat on my comfy couch and popped onto Twitter to connect with a few feeds I am always blessed by reading.

Within five minutes, the following two verses and one quote had all grabbed hold of my heart.

I am listening, God.

My New What to Do When I Don’t Know What to Do List:

Bring it all to God:

Cast all your cares on Him, for He adores you. 1 Peter 5:7

Because:

God is always with us. He will never leave us. He’s always present in the place of need, the place of pain to provide comfort and hope. @jeremycamp tweet, Jan 12/2015 3:05pm

and because:

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In the middle of my longest work day, I needed to remember its okay to be be still.
To wait.
To catch my breath.
To listen.
To expect He is with me.
To recall how He loves me.
To claim the promise He has the best yet to come for me.
To let God battle for me where I am meant to let Him.
To remember tomorrow is a fresh slate ready for me to follow the right path when I don’t know what to do.

For tonight, I go to bed now knowing:

I slipped up.
I confessed.
He restores.
He adores.
His grace & mercy He pours
onto these uplifted hands.
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#hopeinHisPresence

ways to curb your impulse buying

Need to spend less?
Want to have more to show for the money you are spending?

These are my comments based on the category suggestions from the article: Six Simple Ways to Curb Impulsive Buying, by Mary Hunt, Debt-Proof Living Newsletter, January 2014. I have helped several friends and coworkers to pay down debt and spend their cash wisely over the years.

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SHOP IN HEELS:
In my case, I am already in and out of the mall in an hour or less, so this would not work for me. I walk way too fast to wear heels at the mall! The writer suggests that you would get uncomfortable earlier, but that will only work if you are unused to wearing heels.

CASH ONLY:
Usually this works for me. I do give myself a credit card allowance weekly as a way of purchasing and getting points for movie passes. Since I pay my card off in dull every two weeks, this works for me. Groceries & gas are paid in cash, so once the money’s gone, we have to make do.

SHOW UP FULL:
Never shop hungry. Good advice. I try to go right after a meal so this doesn’t have me shopping hangry!

TIME RULE:
Set a time limit to make sure you really need the item. 1 hour, 24 hour, 1 week….this really helps you make sure the item is needed, and not a gut reaction to a crappy day!
As well, set a time limit for how long you will shop…
I would add this to:

SHOP WITH PURPOSE (my category)
Don’t go shopping just coz with credit or debit cards. Go to a coffee shop instead if you need to kill time. No purpose for being there, don’t be!

SHOP WITH THE RIGHT PEOPLE
People who are impulse shoppers or reckless with their money are not the best to take shopping with you. Kids can fall into this category ( I have one who is more impulsive than the other, so I carry cash when out with that one!) Shopping with someone with an unlimited budget can encourage keeping up with the Jones’, which doesn’t end well.

WHERE YOU SHOP
Online or on site can impact how much you spend. You know yourself, so decide which way works better for you and stick with it. Have an accountability partner hold you accountable if you need help.

SHOP WITH A LIST (my category)
This means you know what you are looking for, likely have a budget and will be more successful at avoiding impulse buys! No matter what it is, whether clothes, gifts or groceries, make a list. Check it twice. Stick to it, no matter what.

AVOID CROWDS (my category)
Do your homework. I avoid Black Mondays and shopping after Christmas until well into the New Year, because i am not comfortable in crowds. I don’t like the jostling and grabbing that occurs with avid sales shoppers. Competition for items doesn’t being our the best in people, and you may take an item you doing really need home just so that lady doesn’t get one. Sad reality, but i have seen it happen.

NEW VS SECOND HAND? (my category)
If you are on a tight budget, try finding the item you need (not undergarments or socks) second hand. I have organized a few clothing swaps to help my friends and I add a few new pieces to our wardrobe without spending a penny. Borrowing a fancy dress for an event is also a great way to save money. With food, this can be….

BRAND NAME vs STORE BRAND. There are a few things (laundry soap and toilet paper) where I buy the brand names, but most are generic store brands or on sale. This can help cut your grocery budget and save money when things are tight.

MEALS FROM HOME (my category)
I try to bring food from home 3/4 of my work days. As I work from home on the 5th day, I allow myself one day to eat Thai out at lunch (when its cheapest), and have a latte or tea twice a week. Otherwise, I bring my meals and snacks from home. This can add up to significant savings to your spending money. I find I portion control better when I prepare my own food.

There are many different resources you can use to help you get your spending in order. Dave Ramsey, Gail Vaz-Oxlade and financial planners can help you set your budget and goals. It won’t happen over night, but over time you will become used to bring more thrifty, and spending wisely will become your new norm.

The Bible says a great deal about being wise with your resources. Ask Him to guide your decisions about spending. When we work with a team, we are likely to stay the course.