At first glance, one part of dealing with FEAR can be rooted in something which may not seem to be connected.
These two are connected through unforgiveness.
When we are angry with someone and don’t release that negative emotion, we make room for the enemy to take that anger and twist it in a way which will keep a divide between us and our offender, and which will cause ourselves emotional harm.
Now what I am about to say may shock you… but its okay to be angry about being taken advantage of, hurt or damaged by another person or situation.
But we were never meant to carry it with us into the night, or the next day, or the day after that…
Go ahead and be angry. You do well to be angry—but don’t use your anger as fuel for revenge. And don’t stay angry. Don’t go to bed angry. Don’t give the Devil that kind of foothold in your life. Ephesians 4:26-27 MSG
When anger take root within, it leaves us off kilter, and shifts our perspective to expecting the worst. It lays the perfect groundwork for fear to latch onto, and to take on a life of its own.
All because we do not give our hurts and anger over to God, and ask Him to heal and release us from them. Then, we fail to extend forgiveness to the offender or release it into the situation.
Even if you don’t get the opportunity to say it to their face, forgiveness sets you free from your anger, & will lessen/erase your related fears.
I was angry for years at the situation my birth father created for my mother right before he unexpectedly died. But I had no way to tell him how I felt, so the anger took root. It wasn’t until I became a Christian that it became clear I was angry at him, & was afraid to let a man emotionally close to me for fear he would treat me the same way.
God gently reminded me He was my perfect Father, that forgiving my father would release me and His love would cast out the fear & anger. And He has!
Invite Him to remove your anger & fear today. He longs to do so!